Your glass… half empty?

(Die Afrikaanse weergawe verskyn onder die Engels)

I am sure you know someone who always complains about hardships.  Do you ask how she is, you hear about everything that went wrong again, how disheartened she is, how it is always going well with others and never with her, and she had enough of her circumstances… the one whose glass is half empty!

She does not realise she still has SOMETHING in her glass.  She believes someone else used the other half of what was supposed to be in her glass, and also without her consent!

Do you enjoy a conversation with the half-empty-glass person?  The one who exhausts you with all her troubles;  who does not really care how full or empty YOUR glass is?

 I hope you also know someone with whom all is well, who always smiles, who is grateful for all she has (even if it is a little) and who listens because she cares. Whether all is actually well with her, we don’t really know, but she does not burden you with all her bad luck stories when you greet her.  In fact, she does not really talk about herself … the one whose glass is half full!

She is thankful for every drop in her glass.  She ensures her glass is filled regularly and never runs dry.  In fact, she fills her glass herself and does not wait for others to do so.

Don’t you admire the half-full-glass person?  The one who inspires you with her conversation; who always shows consideration and  fills your glass without expecting anything in return. 

 How does YOUR glass look?  Half empty perhaps, and without you realising, people avoid you because they are just so tired of your half-empty-glass stories?

Do not be fooled that a half-empty-glass approach leads to sympathy.

*It is far better to help people who would help themselves.

*It is inspiring and uplifting to be in the presence of a half-full-glass person!

So fill your glass and keep it as full as you possibly can!

vintage water


Jou glas …  half leeg of half vol?

 Ek is seker jy ken iemand wat altyd kla oor swaarkry.  Vra jy hoe dit gaan hoor jy van alles wat alweer verkeerd geloop het, hoe mismoedig sy is, hoe dit altyd goed gaan met ander en nooit met haar nie, en sy het nou genoeg gehad van haar omstandighede …die een wie se glas half leeg is!

Sy besef nie daar is darem nog IETS in haar glas nie. Sy glo iemand anders het boonop die ander helfte wat veronderstel is om in haar glas te wees, opgebruik sonder haar toestemming!

Is dit vir jou lekker om met die half-lee-glas-persoon te gesels?  Die een wat jou moeg maak met al haar probleme;  wat eintlik ook nie omgee hoe vol of leeg JOU glas is nie?

Ek hoop jy ken ook iemand met wie dit goed gaan, wat altyd glimlag, wat dankbaar is vir wat sy het (al is dit min) en wat luister omdat sy omgee.  Of dit wel so goed gaan, weet ons eintlik nie, maar sy oorval jou nie met al haar teespoed wanneer jy haar groet nie. Ineendeel, sy praat nie eintlik oor haarself nie… die een wie se glas half vol is!

Sy is dankbaar vir elke druppel in haar glas.  Sy maak seker haar glas word gereeld volgemaak en raak nooit leeg nie.  Inteendeel, sy maak self haar glas vol en wag nie dat ander dit doen nie.

Bewonder jy nie ook die half-vol-glas-persoon nie?  Die een wat jou inspireer met haar gesprekke;  wat altyd wys sy gee om en jou glas vomaak sonder dat sy iets in ruil verwag. 

 Hoe lyk JOU glas?  Dalk half leeg, en sonder dat jy besef, vermy mense jou omdat hulle al so moeg is vir jou half-lee-glas stories?

Moenie dink dat ‘n half-lee-glas-houding simpatie bring nie.

*Dis baie lekkerder om mense te help wat graag hulself help!

*Dis inspirerend en opbouend om in die teenwordigheid van ‘n half-vol-glas-persoon te wees!

So maak vol jou eie glas en hou dit so vol as moontlik!






She walks her own path – Liesl van der Rede

17 April 2015

Liesl and I met at the Table Bay Hotel for our tea date.  It was a LONG tea date – Liesl and I can talk a hind leg off a donkey – but so much fun!

Liesl met all the requirements for our Tea Date and therefore qualify to share my Desk. Welcome Liesl!

Liesl Desk 2


A bit about Liesl

Liesl was a Knowledge Manager with the Competition Commission.  When her 5 year contract came up for renewal, she decided to leave Johannesburg and move back “home” to Cape Town. Feeling restless after an engagement was called off; she knew it was time for a new season – what better place to start than in Cape Town?

Liesl’s special coffee mug  (Liesl is not a tea drinker!)

A colourful Happy Birthday mug…and very important: it has a little bear on the inside!  Liesl felt the need for a “me mug” when she arrived in Cape Town and an aunt chose this as the perfect gift.

Mug photo







Our Live, Love, Laugh Conversation:  

 Live:  “I love the outdoors and am inspired by God’s work in our world; the ocean, mountain – it takes my breath away.  I also love watching little children play and enjoy life to the fullest.  As adults we have lost that ability – quite sad”.

Love your LookLiesl’s image tip:  “Dress so that for the rest of the day you do not have to think about your outfit.  No fidgeting with your clothes, pulling on it or worrying about the fit – it is distracting!”

…… it!!  Valuable advice Liesl!

Laugh:  “I am not actually a joke person, I enjoy the humour in real life situations like when the furniture shop wanted to deliver my new lounge suite – a whole 30 days too early.”

Liesl’s secret revealed:

She has a tattoo!   On her lower back and she even showed me.  Not the kinda girl I would associate a tattoo with but loved the story behind it – a true gesture of friendship signifies it.

The crazy classy gift!  Classy on the outside – crazy on the inside

Liesl has many hobbies, but the one that intrigued me the most is her love for making sweets and special cupcakes.  She shares her sweet and cupcake ventures on her own blog ( – you have to go and look!

Her gift:  A purple DIVA BRUSH for scrubbing her pots and pans.   

Liesl gift


What I have learned from Liesl:  Liesl has taught me that quality of life is more important than the amount of money you earn. She works very hard Monday to Thursday and spends Fridays doing something she enjoys…like sitting on a ‘bankie’ reading a book.  Liesl has inspired me to make more ‘bankie’ time for myself!


Until we meet at the next Tea Date!


Ps:  the caption is chosen by the Tea Date guest.





A clever idea for Autumn

It is autumn:  neither too hot nor too cold, but certainly time for a light long sleeve jacket.

Using a scarf as a mock blouse under your autumn jackets can add a few new looks to your wardrobe.

  • Drape a broad oblong scarf around your neck
  • Place the ends on top of each other, and in front tuck into your bottom


  • Wear a jacket over your scarf and there you have a “new blouse”

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Pssst  …just remember you cannot remove your jacket while out and about 🙂

I will share my desk!

Last week I announced the exciting news of ladies who will be interviewed and then allowed to “share my desk”.

Desk Lianne







To have this privilege there are however a few requirements, which I would like to share with you:

  • You have to agree to a Tea  Date
  • You have to bring your special tea cup (if you do not do tea, a coffee mug will be allowed)
  • You have to wear your favourite outfit
  • You have to be in a chirpy mood 🙂

The content of the conversation will include the following:

  • Live:  what inspires you?
  • Love your look:  your best clothing, shopping or dressing advice
  • Laugh:  your favourite joke or funny story

AND….you have to reveal a secret about yourself!

You will, however, be rewarded as well:

  • You will receive a classy, crazy gift:  classy on the outside, crazy on the inside
  • An opportunity to share my desk with me, on condition all your friends cheer for you on the blog!!


Exciting announcement!

Soon you will be able to read what inspire other women.

Thank you to Diane Lindemann who had this brilliant idea, I will be interviewing women (over a cup of tea) and allow them to be “behind my desk” .

What questions would you ask other women?