Ms Organise – Tracy Patterson

11 July 2015

Tracy invited me for breakfast AND tea and cake to Bread & Butter in Parklands.  We had loads of fun, discussed our tea date topics at length and I am happy to announce that she qualifies to move in behind my desk.



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A bit about Tracy

Tracy is the office manager at Silvermoon Business Systems and is literally ‘running the show’!  She ensures that everything, and I mean, EVERYTHING, runs smoothly at the office. She has brilliant organisational skills.

This “ Ms Organise” has the most amazing ability to even help her friends and family organise their lives too J

Tracy’s tea cup

 Tracy’s tea cup is part of a Royal Albert Bone China set.  The set consists of 12 tea cups and cake plates, one for each month of the year.  Tracy’s aunt gave each lady in the family the cup and saucer of their birthday month and Tracy decided to collect the entire set.

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So guess what? I had the privilege to drink out of the teacup she brought with! Right there, in the coffee shop, she convinced me to ‘experience’ tea out of her special cup.

Thank you, Tracy. That was a special gesture and I enjoyed every sip of my tea.

 Our Live, Love, Laugh conversation:

 Live:  “Never feel ashamed to ask for help and never condemn those who ask for help.  Childhood experiences often affect one’s adulthood and if you want to prosper and grow as a person, get professional help.” Her advice comes from personal experience as she has grown to a stage in her life where she has inner peace and happiness. She also believes family and friends are often too subjective to help and therefore it is better to seek the help of professionals such as psychologists and life coaches.

Her words:  “Take courage to move out of your comfort zone to experience growth”

How often do we not complain about our circumstances, but do nothing about it?  Here is a lady who did not wait for her life to get better, but took action to MAKE it better! 

Love your LookTracy’s image and dress tips

The “Tracy Shopping Theory”:  if you find a style that works for you, buy one in every colour!!  Green, black, blue – whatever is in stock!

“NOOO!  Lianne (the image consultant) will kill you for all the duplicates in your wardrobe. She has been battling with me for years….  Ha ha ha”

No comment from Lianne…….I rest my case 🙂

On a serious note, her advice is:  know and embrace your body shape.  Do not get stuck in a rut with always buying the same styles – try something new which can also work for your body shape”

……well done!

Laugh:  Create a picture of the story in your mind and you will enjoy the humour in this:

“I attend Jiu Jitso classes, a form of Marshall Arts.  I want to be able to defend myself should anyone ever try to attack me.  I often come home with bruises and then tend to feel a bit sorry for myself.  We recently practised a new technique where I had to act as the victim.   The grip of the “attacker” put serious strain on my neck.  I was so glad that the instructor could see my suffering when he very sympathetically asked ‘is your neck getting sore?’.  In response to his sympathy, I answered in a weak voice ‘yes, ouch’…..

His unexpected, loud HARSH response – “‘now carry on and break her arm!!!!!’

I got such a fright, I forgot what I was supposed to do!”

Tracy’s secret revealed:

Tracy cannot get dressed in the morning if her bed is a mess.  It HAS to be made up before she showers – her outfit for the day needs to be laid out on it! All ready to dress once she steps out of the shower…

The crazy classy gift!

 There are two things which inspired Tracy’s gift:

1) she has very little storage and packing space at home so she everything has to have a place

2) she loves shopping.

So her gift was a small dustpan and broom which will not take up too much cupboard space…and it looks like a handbag!

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What one can learn from Tracy: 

 Tracy is proof of the fact that we are responsible for our own happiness; we cannot rely on other people to make us happy!  We can also not experience true happiness in life, if we are not happy with ourselves first …and this lady is living proof of that. 


See you soon….at our next tea date!




Spread a little (of God’s) love

I listen to Havana Brown singing “if we spread a little love, we’ll never die” ( and I am reminded of an incident on my flight to Johannesburg today.

 I’d like to share it with you:

I am doing my normal “landing ritual” – pack away laptop, take out makeup purse, put lipstick on, rub cream on my hands….

A lady on the opposite side of the ‘plane, one row in front of me, gets out of her isle seat and makes eye contact with me as she turns around.  With her lips she forms the words “I’d like to ask you something”.  She moves into the half empty row behind me to reach me in my window seat.

“Can I perhaps use some of your lipstick?  I will use my finger to put it on.  I have just washed my hands” (Yes, I saw her come out of the bathroom cubicle)…

‘I have 2 lipsticks in my makeup purse, but neither colours will look good against your skin tone…’ my image consultant mind thinks, but I give her the one I just used.

“Put on some more” …I tell her.

“That looks pretty” …I hear myself say.

She responds with a soft voice:

“We are meeting a friend at the airport whom we have not seen in a very long time.  I had to pack so quickly I forgot my lipstick.  My husband is very ill …with cancer” (Yes, I saw him before we boarded – pale, fragile and weak.  I wondered about him…)

With tear filled eyes she stretches her hand out to me:  “I am going through a very tough time.  He can hardly walk”.  (Yes, I saw that too …just like my dad at the moment…)

Spontaneously I take her hand between both of mine and squeeze it against my cheek. Fighting my own tears I can only say “I will think of you”…

She leaves.  I stare out of my little ‘plane window to God’s creation on the outside and I pray for her:

for strength, peace and that through our hands touching, I could pass on some of God’s amazing love I am so privileged to experience!

God reminded me today that ‘spreading a little love’ has a huge impact – not only on the receiver, but also on the giver…

I will keep on thinking about her!

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Ek luister hoe Havana Brown sing “if we spread a little love, we’ll never die” (sien die video hierbo) en dink terug aan ‘n insident vandag op my vlug na Johannesburg. 

Ek deel dit graag met jou:

Ek is besig met my normale “landingsritueel” – pak skootrekenaar weg, haal grimeersakkie uit, sit lipstiffie aan, smeer room aan my hande….

‘n Dame aan die oorkant van die vliegtuig, een ry voor my, staan uit haar paadjie-sitplek op en maak oogkontak met my toe sy omdraai.  Met haar lippe vorm sy die woorde “ek wil jou iets vra”.  Sy skuif in die half lee ry agter my in om tot by my venster-sitplek te kom.

“Kan ek dalk van jou lipstiffie gebruik? Ek sal dit met my vinger aansmeer.  Ek het pas my hande gewas.”   (Ja, ek het haar gesien toe sy uit die badkamerhokkie kom)…

‘Ek het 2 lipstiffies in my grimeersakkie, maar nie een van die kleure gaan goed lyk teen jou velkleur nie…’ dink my voorkomsbrein, maar ek gee haar die een wat ek pas gebruik het.

“Sit ‘n bietjie meer aan” …se ek vir haar.

“Dit lyk mooi” …hoor ek myself se.

Sy reageer met ‘n sagte stem:

“Ons ontmoet ‘n vriend by die lughawe wat ons baie lanklaas gesien het.  Ek moes so vinnig inpak ek het my lipstiffie vergeet.  My man is baie siek …met kanker”. (Ja, ek het hom gesien voor ons opgeklim het – bleek, broos, swak en ek het gewonder oor hom)

Met oe vol trane steek sy haar hand uit na my: “Ek gaan deur ‘n baie moeilike tyd.  Hy kan amper nie meer loop nie”.  (Ja, ek het dit gesien.. net soos my pa op die oomblik)

Spontaan neem ek haar hand in beide myne en druk dit teen my wang.  Ek baklei teen my eie trane en kry net “ek sal aan jou dink” uit.

Sy stap terug.  Ek staar deur die klein vliegtuigvenstertjie na God se skepping daar buite en ek bid vir haar:

vir krag, vrede en dat deur die aanraking van ons hande, dit vir my moontlik was om ‘n stukkie van God se ongelooflike liefde, wat ek so bevoorreg is om te ervaar, aan haar kon gee.

God het my vandag daaraan herinner dat die gee van ‘n bietjie liefde’n groot impak het – nie net op die een wat dit ontvang nie, maarook op die een wat gee…

Ek sal aanhou dink aan haar!












Wanting to make a difference – Arlyna van Dyk

3 July 2015

 Arlyna chose a quaint little coffee shop in Durbanville, Cafe Perlina, for our tea date.  A place I did not even know exist.  We were even spoiled with a heater at our table when we entered shivering from the cold!

…and finally (drum roll!!!) Arlyna moves in behind my desk!  Thank you for a pleasant tea date and all the stories shared!

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A bit about Arlyna

Arlyna’s teaching career started in 1985 in Robertson.  The past 6 years she has been teaching grade 4 learners at Durbanville Primary School.

A lady who is passionate about teaching and the development of children;  someone who makes a difference in the lives of children …..and their parents.

Arlyna’s tea cup

This beautiful tea cup is a gift from Arlyna’s Mom.  Very pretty…

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 Our Live, Love, Laugh conversation:

 Live:    “For the right people you can do nothing wrong, but for the wrong people you can do nothing right”

 Ok, you probably need to read this again to grasp the true meaning.  I asked Arlyna to repeat herself.  So, so, true!?

Arlyna strives to make a difference in the lives of people. She has learned if people are not ready to take ownership of their own lives or not ready to make changes, there is no sense in trying to help. The ‘right’ people, however, those who want to change their lives for the better, are willing and ready to accept help.  She has also accepted that ‘people need to live their own dream’ . Therefore she has stopped worrying too much about those who do not want help –   “I now live my own dream”.

Arlyna, with your warm, sincere personality, you do make a difference in the lives of people merely with your presence!

Love your Look:  Alryna shared 2 tips:

“Knowing what colours suit you make life so much easier.  You know exactly what colour clothing to buy;  what hair colour suits you best; what jewellery and makeup suit your skin colour. The colour coding session I had a few years ago definitely changed my life!

My second image tip:  whenever you buy an item of clothing, ensure it will match 3 other existing items in your wardrobe.  I even apply this when I pack for holidays or weekends away – works brilliantly!”

Well, there you go ladies!  Tips from a woman with experience J

Laugh:  Arlyna has a few family jokes which nobody else may find funny, but is very precious (and funny) for her.

So, I have learnt about “getting a monkey”!  This is when someone dumps their responsibility on you – like a pet monkey sitting on your shoulder!  You now have the burden of someone else’s job e.g.  you give a message to the chairperson of a meeting:  “Peter phoned to say he is ill and not able to do the financial presentation this afternoon”.  Mr Chairperson then asks you to phone the board members to see who is available. This despite the fact that you are not even on the board.  Now you have a monkey from the chairperson!! 🙂

I am sure there are many of us who received an (invisible) monkey…. A dreaded responsibility passed on by others!!

 Arlyna’s secret revealed:

 To the embarrassment of her husband, Arlyna has a cuss word she uses at home to voice her frustration and annoyance when people take advantage of her(….I will not embarrass Arlyna by mentioning the word!).

At least she does not attack the culprits – she gets rid of her frustration in ‘private’!!

The crazy classy gift!

 Classrooms are not the warmest of places so I decided to spoil Arlyna with a pair of  warm socks.  Colourful ones to represent the ‘colourful’ adventures teachers experience with their learners…

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What I have learned from Arlyna: 

 Arlyna is a very humble, reserved lady who prefers doing things quietly and unnoticed rather than expecting public recognition.  It has happened more than once that people take advantage of her good heart and nature, then still making inconsiderate, hurtful comments in her presence.  She has, however, never defended herself and been rude to these people.  Despite any hurt she may have experienced, she still treats them with the respect and care.  Forgiveness is key …and we learn from you, Arlyna.

Until the next tea date!