Embrace Life – Deidre Carstens

10 October 2015

Deidre and I met at her favourite coffee shop, Chocolat, in Durbanville.  The 3 hours we spent together was way too short – we just had so much to discuss! What an enlightening experience.


Deidre, welcome behind my desk. What a privilege to have you there!  Certainly a desk with less stress than your own…..

Deidre desk final

A bit about Deidre

 For the last 11,5 years Deidre has been working at Cool Wines where she started as a debtors clerk.  With hard work and dedication through the years she has now been appointed as National Credit Manager. Enjoying the industry in which she works was not enough, so she completed a wine course to be able to enjoy drinking and tasting various wines even more.

This lady is a true people’s person and knows exactly how to build excellent relationships – no wonder she is so successful in her job!

Deidre’s tea cup

 A friend often visits her and her husband. This friend does not drink his tea nor coffee from a mug and Deidre did not possess any tea cups.  So he made a plan and gave her a tea set from which he can be served tea and coffee when visiting.

Teekoppie finaal

A man with a (good) plan I would say J

 Our Live, Love, Laugh conversation

Live:  When Deidre’s dad fell ill with cancer he expressed the wish to use his entire pension to buy another 10 years’ of time with his family.  This made Deidre realise that we need to embrace life and take the positive out of it while we are healthy.

Deidre had the privilege to read to her dad from the Bible when he could no longer read for himself.  In the two weeks before he passed away he wanted to hear the same passage every night: 1 Cor 13.  Verse 13 was special to both of them and Deidre believes this is another key to “embracing life”.  She has the words FAITH, HOPE and LOVE on her keyring which reminds her of 1 Cor 13:13 on a daily basis.

Sleutelhouer finaal

Deidre, you indeed embrace life in everything you do.  You are a role model to many!

Love your look:  Deidre’s image tips

Deidre enjoys comfortable clothes and although her style is pretty natural, she loves a bit of bling on a shoe or a bracelet.  Two image tips from Deidre:

  1. “I always have more tops than bottoms in my wardrobe. This allows me to look different every day.  People most often notice your tops rather than your bottoms”
  2. “When I shop and see a pretty item and in which I feel good, I buy it immediately. It may be gone later and then I would have missed out”

A valuable shopping tip for those who tend to ponder  over “to buy or not to buy”…

Laugh:  Shortly after Deidre started at Cool Wines, the admin staff (who are mainly office bound), were taken on an outing to 5 different wine farms.  Deidre loves animals and on one of the farms a beautiful Boerboel dog ran to greet her. Deidre knows dog breeds very well, but on this day – without thinking – she asked the owner’s son what kind of crossbreed the dog is?  He responded with the entire pedigree of this thoroughbred.  “My image and reputation was shattered before I could make a good first impression!”

Ok, so let’s remember to think before we speak. Lol

Deidre’s secret revealed

“When my garden is in full bloom and looking pretty you can know I am in stress-relieve mode!  I love gardening, love the feel of soil between my fingers and when I am stressed you will find me in my garden.  It is my stress-relief haven.”

The crazy classy gift!

 Deidre’s gift was inspired by the fact that she works in the wine industry, as well as an arrangement she had with her kids when they were small: they were not allowed to disturb her when she relaxes in the bath.  So, what better than   “champagne bubble bath”?!

Pic frame

Lianne geskenk final



And so I also got a gift – and ironic enough, real sparkling wine.  It was my 24th wedding anniversary on the day of our tea date and Deidre decided to spoil me too.

We had 2 “sparkling wine” bottles on our table – each with different content.




What I have learned from Deidre

 Deidre has taught me the value of a coping mechanism during difficult times of life. She treasured Bible reading to her dad in a very sad phase of her life, she creates “me time” to re-energise herself and she always shares a laugh (or sometimes just a smile) with a humouristic comment when things may not go according to plan.  Her positive spirit is indeed contagious and you just cannot be depressed in her company!

Deidre, you certainly spread happiness despite your own challenges.



One comment on “Embrace Life – Deidre Carstens

  1. Anonymous says:

    How much we can learn from our parents even when they are on their sick bed – taking comfort and strength not from family and friends but words of wisdom from the Bible. When my mom was sick in hospital her answer to my question: “mom, is there anything I can do for you before I leave?” and her answer was always the same “can you please read from the Bible to me?” Love your blogs Lianne

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